Combine two incompetent people together and what do you get?

Obviously incompetence times two

You might expect the two to help each other out, complement each other, but in fact it is made much worse

So it must be avoided at all costs

You might think that if you do not achieve something now, it will be acquired later, but think again. Any skill, any characteristic or habit, anything at all in life must be acquired now rather than later. That includes awards, that includes cooking skills, growing skills, how to study, how to achieve many things simultaneously and end up where you want to be.

You won’t change. You will be the same still. A laughing stock. Change will be eternally painful. But there is no choice.

At times I hate myself

As a child, I went to W’s place, for no reason except stupid curiosity, and against mum’s wishes, and then got sick, mum got it too, I went to the doctor with F, even though mum only wanted a light something from the pharmacy, I ended up with extremely potent antibiotics (for a child!) and then mum had them instead of me, which I daresay then wrecked her gut and caused her health to go far worse and ultimately ending with tragedy H.

I am certain most families have some troubles along the way but still.

Children appear to be the problem. They cause the trouble, or it’s the way that adults have to interact with them. A strong and strict approach can avoid problems, but the causes are more complex — the child is just the seed of the issue. Families that have children have the capacity to bring children up. The decision to have children is itself dependent on a life affirming attitude, a series of successes, smooth life events, with little or no anti-natalism tendencies. Regarding this matter I have plenty of it, but it can be separated from one’s own life, one need not advocate it, and it’s not a very coherent label.